Today, we have our first fight after married (little one that was over in 2 hrs don’t count)
I was surprised that we got into arguments for such small matter………..
The arguments focus on “If our parents loan us some money should we pay back in future?”
To me, both our parents “spend” tons of money to make who we are today. As a full grown adult, we should be able to take care ourselves; if we make parents worry about us is already wrong. It is the idea seeing them as ATM machine which I can’t get over.
I am not saying I don’t need help from them. Of course I needed to ask them money for our wedding, and in future I might also need their help in finance. But what we have taken from them is not only in finance, also learn from their experiences, share their wisdoms and so on.
The idea I am driving at is, it isn’t wrong to ask for help. Regardless they help me or not, I believe they still love me, as I love them. It is my duty to repay the debt, that I own them as much as I can in my life time.
My wife seems to misunderstand me long time ago, whenever I said “repaid our dept” to our parents mean money. If money is the only way to repaid them, then I think I will never be able to do so. But, to add on to that, if I am ever rich enough to pay back the money they loan me, I would!!! And paid back more!! There is no end how much I own to them, and how grateful I am to them.
If I am rich enough, I will love to take both of my parents (wife’s side as well) to travel around the world. Or take them out for nice meals, or simply said I love you, whatever will make them happy is my way to pay my dept to them.
Anyway, since we both still in cold war, although I am not as piss off as I was (I believe it is a misunderstood). In my wife’s eyes, I am forever an idiot when it comes to money issues, or application form related…. which I do admit she is better in those things.
I have officially “loan” money from my wife to live (house rent, food (yes, I eat a lot), cell phone bills etc) about a month. Being jobless is pain in the ass, and it is getting stressful. I hate to take money from my wife, as much as I hate being jobless. I wish I could shut myself off, and only wake up when interviews come. Sometimes, we can joke about how much I have own her and how should I repay my depts. Although I can clearly sense that “Loaning” me money is making her stress too. If today, I was in her shoes and she is jobless, I will be happy to “loan” her my money as well.
However, this life style is making both of us very stress. One of my friend said, isn’t marriage suppose be supporting each other? Yes, I agree. I still remember I said something like “I, Roger, take you, Maggie, to be my wedded wife. With deepest joy I receive you into my life…..rest forgot XD , but there is something like for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health….bla bla bla~.
Indeed!!! Somehow me being jobless still making our marriage stressful, does the stress come from our parents? Friends?....no matter what is causing us being stress, I just hope this hell end as soon as possible.
About my job? The good news is I got 2nd interview this coming Thursday with their Director 1 on 1, please pray for me. Funny thing about my phone interview earlier, the guy who interviewed me have a strong Scotland or some English accent, when he said the meeting address for next interview I almost freak out……what I wrote down was “2H5 Halston Bee Road” at Esalta Coffee (that was after he repeat twice already)…….after I hang up , I tried to Google map it…..no such address exist, I had panic attack for like over 1 hour searching through yellow pages, Google, and all possible solutions. STILL, I can’t find the God dam place. I was like oh, I am so fuck~ and with little hope that he won’t think I am an idiot, I wrote to him an e-mail to ask the address….good thing is he did get back to me and said the address is “Salta Cafe, 285 Ponsonby Rd” , and hopefully he still like me enough….XD. I am going to quote from Roland, “being on time is not on time” cus people could be ready for you already. I will be there like an hour early…….make that 2 hours
Keep me in your prayer~
Jokes aside.
ReplyDeleteI have an unreasonable sense of confidence that you're going to come out of this just fine.
Observing both of you in the last 2 years, I never had doubt that you and maggie would be fine, dark clouds or clear blue skies. Your career is take flight once you get your hands on something. You'll definitely own it.The problems you have are good ones. REmember when you first arrived in SG, things were not easy for your too, but you got there and you rocked it dude.
The true colors of a person comes out when you get to see his response to adversity. And you are bringing all you can to the fight.
keep on going bitch!
melvin